Over The Threshold

Fourteen years ago, this Wednesday, I stood at the edge of something sacred and unknown. The aisle stretched before me, lined with familiar faces, yet my eyes were fixed on one man, the man I had chosen, though I didn’t yet fully understand what it meant to choose him for a lifetime. I wouldn’t have described Ceaser as my “purpose partner” back then. In fact, those words weren’t even part of my vocabulary. What I knew was simpler: we were in love. In that moment, it felt like enough. But love, as I have learned, is not static; it must grow, stretch, deepen, and multiply if it is to weather the storms that come with life.

As I walked toward him that day, my mind was full of butterflies, excitement, and dreams. I thought devotion alone would be enough to carry us through. But God has shown me over the years that devotion is just one of the bricks in the foundation. He was preparing to build something far greater than I could see in that moment: a home, a covenant, a shelter that would not only hold the two of us and our children but also welcome others He would send along the way. What began as two young hearts promising “I do” has become a life layered with purpose, forged by faith, and refined through both joy and trial.

After the reception, we did something unusual. Instead of following protocol, being chauffeured away, staying in a hotel, and waiting for our honeymoon, we chose a different path. We wanted to start as we meant to continue: together, simple, and focused on building our own home. So, we drove the long hour from the venue to our little flat, just us two in the car. People hooted and waved, celebrating our union, but the world faded as we pressed forward into this new chapter.

I’ll never forget the sight when we arrived. Ceaser had gone ahead the night before to scatter rose petals on the floor. It was a tender gesture that met me like a whisper of reassurance: you are loved, you are safe, you are home. He unlocked the door, helped me out of the car, and carried me, train and all, over the threshold of our first home together. That simple act, steeped in tradition, carried with it more meaning than I understood in the moment. It wasn’t just about romance; it was about stepping into covenant, into adventure, into purpose.

I remember feeling so special. I think every young woman feels this way when her man carries her, but beyond that, I felt like I was exactly where God wanted me to be and that this was the very beginning of the greatest adventure of my life. I wasn’t wrong. Being Ceaser’s bride has truly been, and continues to be, the greatest adventure of my life.

That was just the beginning of the adventure, and it all started with a step over the threshold.

He who watches the wind, waiting for all conditions to be perfect, will not sow seed, and he who looks at the clouds will not reap a harvest. ~ Ecclesiastes 11:4 (AMP)

How many of us linger at the threshold, waiting for perfect conditions before we step forward? We delay, overanalyse, or wait for others’ approval. We fear storms that might never come. And in doing so, we miss the windows of opportunity God opens. Seeds stay in our hands instead of going into the ground. Ideas grow stale, and purpose is postponed.

Marriage has taught me that life requires building, sowing, and pressing forward, often before the blueprint makes sense. God rarely hands us the harvest without the growth process. He gives us seeds (talents, ideas), soil (opportunities), and wisdom (from Him and from our experiences). But He expects us to plant, water, and act in faith. Stepping over thresholds of calling and personal growth requires courage. Here are two key reminders to keep with you as you encounter the many thresholds God has along your journey:

Don’t Wait for Perfect Conditions

One of the greatest mistakes we make is waiting until everything looks right before we act. We hold back from moving forward with what God has asked us to do because we’re waiting for all the money, all the connections, or all the confirmations. We freeze because it “looks like rain.” But what if the storm never comes? What kind of life would we have lived if we had never taken the chance? Studies say 80% of what we fear never happens, and most of the 20% that does is not as bad as we imagined. Fear of imperfect conditions keeps us outside the threshold of purpose.

Opportunities don’t last forever. Soil shifts. What feels fresh and revolutionary today may be stale tomorrow if we don’t act. Have you ever watched someone else bring to life an idea you once had but never pursued? That’s the danger of waiting for perfect conditions; someone else sows, and someone else reaps.

Don’t Over-Analyse Yourself Out of Faith

The second trap is being so cautious that we analyse ourselves out of God’s plan. Wisdom and analysis are good friends, but we are called to live by faith, not by analysis. God often leaves gaps in the puzzle of our lives to keep us dependent on Him. Those gaps are meant to point us back to His power, not paralyse us into inaction.

Think of the Proverbs 31 woman, she “considers a field and buys it.” She thinks carefully, but she also acts. Faith is not recklessness; it is trust-filled obedience. There comes a time when “one day” must become “today.” And when resistance hits, as it always does at the threshold, we must remember that one red light should not outweigh ten green lights. The enemy tries to magnify obstacles right before any breakthrough. Don’t let over-analysis rob you of what God has already confirmed.

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Thirteen years later, I look back with gratitude. That symbolic moment of being carried over the threshold was more than a romantic gesture; it was a prophetic picture of what life with Ceaser and with God would be. Full of trust, bold steps, and a covenant bigger than ourselves.

So, friend, let me encourage you: whatever threshold you’re standing at today, don’t hesitate. Don’t wait for perfect conditions. Don’t over-analyse yourself out of God’s plan. Be bold enough to step forward, because the greatest adventure of your life, whatever it is, awaits on the other side. When you cross it with God, you step into the fullness of what He designed you for.